Please self, remember this:
Love is more important than achievement.
Love is achievement.
And… stop feeling all sorry for yourself for this or that supposed inflicted injury.
It’s not necessary nor real.
Stop taking things personally.
Or rather, take all things as though they have nothing whatsoever to do with you personally.
The four agreements, rephrased slightly for positivity/achievability:
- Be conscientious with your word
- Take things impersonally
- Assume nothing
- Your best is good enough.
Wrote that in my journal this afternoon. It’s a bit rough, but thought I’d share it here. It helps me to I remember that I’m not in charge of the world, nor, oddly, does it revolve around me. ;))
The actual Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz, as printed in this little pocket version of the book, which I bought many years ago, during a ferry ride on the west coast of Canada:
(Sometimes we have to gift ourselves the things we really want – especially if they’re pocket-sized words of wisdom. ;))
Jacquelyn’s lovely recent post inspired me to post some book photos. :)) 🌱
About love being an achievement — I was talking about unconditional love, or the Buddhist concept of true love, which, coincidentally, also involves four elements:
- Maitri (kindness, benevolence)
- Karuna (compassion, understanding)
- Mudita (finding joy in bringing happiness to others)
- Upsheka (freedom, non-attachment from views)
(There are many articles on this concept over the Internet. Most of them covered in dodgy-looking dating ads, so I won’t list them here. ;)) Wikipedia lists each concept separately, and together they are also sometimes called “The Four Immeasurable Virtues,” if you wish to do some further research.)
If we can practice kindness and compassion, impart joy to others while experiencing it ourselves, and retain our sense of personal freedom and detachment while doing that, well, what could be a better achievement? Sounds like nirvana to me. :))
Lots of love, friends; thanks for all your sharings, truths, inspiration and/or good vibes,
9 months, 16 days alcohol free